I have to say as a girl I’m ashamed to say that some girls out there put us girls in a bad light. Look at it this way when you’re not interested, there’s no need to play games. If you are testing water with the guys, it has it’s limits. From testing waters it can turn into using the poor fella. What did he do to you that you have to break his heart later when you already know you are not interested. So it’s a thin line between “we’re just hanging out as friends” and “i’m using you, idiot”!
I’m a girl who doesn’t like the attention and the freebies that come along with the package. There are just some girls (i classified them as user) out there that has no limits to these actions. It can go beyond and over the hill and scrap the guys off their edges, and off their wallets. If you are the girl thinking… “why not? they are willing to do so.”, then i’m sorry to say you are nothing but a gold digging biatch and this post is not suitable for your reading. That is why guys out there should know when to stop pursuing otherwise you will be just another bait for a “user” and also sorry to say you asked for it.
Just friends
How to differentiate from just friends to being a user? It is all about the girls’ actions. If you know you are not interested in the guy, you should see less of him. Don’t hangout too much, chat and definitely not on a one to one outing. All these “negative” gestures will tell him that you are not interested but like to remain as friends. Eventually he will get the message because you did not implied that you were interested to begin with, you were just like any other friend. If he didn’t then he’s just one of those…………. I’ll leave a blank for you to fill in. You know what i mean.
User
The girl’s actions will lead the guy thinking that he stand a chance. As I mention earlier, attention with freebies is a good package. I’m sure if a guy had it he wouldn’t mind either. She will keep on sending mixed signals as in, when she’s bored she will ask him to go movies with her or accompany her for dinner, outings, etc. After all she needs someone to pass her boring days, what the cantonese call, “slide in between the hours.” After when she’s bored with you or she has a new love interest you will see less of her. She will be busy with someone else and your friendly time slot has expired. It was fun while it lasted, i didn’t do anything misleading after all you did all those things upon your own free will. Toodles!
For the fair hearted girls out there. If you want to be nice and don’t want to lead a guy on, re-think your actions.
Till next time…
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Actually, it is ok for the guys.
As a guy, you just have to learn to recognise the interest level of the girl and whether she is having you on.
I agree with both hands and legs up to air. Aye aye to that!
I pity all the guys who were being used by the b*tch I mentioned earlier in the comments of one of your posts. It was obvious they were taken for a ride.. and they still wanted to be used to the max. Apparently, this girl is still hanging around with the boyfriend at the same time pull some strings with some other men. And she had the cheek to tell me to join her “spinsterhood”. Geez!!