By: fallen angel

What happens when a guy make a improper comment on a date? The girl get offended and totally hate your ass. It is not that difficult to guess. What it seems to be, these days that guys are using a form of strategy call “negs”. It is a form of insult planted to lower the girl’s self esteem so that the guy can move in easier. Here’s an example: “Nice nails, are they real? No? Oh, well they’re nice anyway.” (Ugly Betty season 2, they also feature 1 episode with this strategy)

Recently my girl friend went on a so called date and she just had this experience. She was out with him for lunch and having a casual conversation, out of no where all of a sudden the guy just said to her “you are fat.” She was like, what? Why would he just make such a improper comment out of no where. She just smile it off and say oh ya… put on a little weight lately (she’s still far from fat, i can vouch for that). As the lunch continues, he make another comment saying that her jaw was big, she had chubby cheeks. My friend was totally pissed and felt so insulted. My friend is a smart attractive girl and it’s not someone you can easily ask out. She was thinking to herself, what is this guy trying to do? After that he was trying to be cute and said she look like a cupcake! Haha! it was the wrong thing to say. He must have thought it was cute to call her cupcake. But all she thought was, now you think i’m round and fat but cute like a cupcake. OH NO! not this way you don’t. After lunch he wanted to walk her back to her office, and she couldn’t shake him off. While passing by the bathroom she said, she needed to use the ladies and she was going to be long, see ya!

Needless to say had a terrible lunch. The comment had bothered her. How can you tell a girl that she was fat. Especially on a date. If he was using the insult to get the girl, well…. he used it on the wrong girl. Did he get her attention? Yes he did, and she just hated his ass. After that, he tried to text her, called her, she totally ignored him. Until now she has not accept or return any of his calls. His last message was, he apologize to her saying if he had said anything that offended her he’s sorry. Well… it’s too late. Sometimes people just get 1 chance and he had to mess it up. Before this, they were talking to each other on the phone  and when she finally decided to go on a date with him, this is what she sees. Someone she does not want to continue seeing.

Dates are for both parties to get to know each other. Maybe if there’s a possibility of furthering the relationship. I guess some people just don’t have respect for it. Oh well, it was just a short lunch not exactly a date date. It was the longest lunch she ever had. My advice, always settle with tea first if you are not sure if you can stand this person. Lunch if you are casual friends with the guy (at least it’s just an hour). Dinner if it’s someone you are interested in.

So guys, whatever strategy you have up your sleeves better think twice before doing it. Not all girls will fall for it. Especially not attractive and smart girls. Put the insult aside, to me it’s just plain manners.

Till next time…