By: fallen angel

For context, refer to Part 1: She Says, I Like You But Only As A Friend

What have i learn after this experience? I then realize that you can’t be just a good friend to a guy. Eventually they will start to have feelings for you. Guys will easily misunderstood your actions. As a girl, i thought it was just normal. I mean this is how we are. Isn’t that why girls always hang with a bunch of girls. When it comes to a guy it’s different. Just can’t treat a guy like the way you would treat your girl friends. When you start to think it’s too good to be true, it probably is

I remember once my guy friend told me, there is no such thing as a girl guy best friend if the guy has no intentions. I disagree with him at that time, and told him not all guys are like that (i was naive at that time). Till now, some people still think the same. But the thing is there’s some truth to that. Let’s analyze this:

When a guy is always trying to make plans with you, he is not just your best friend. He might just make it as if he just happen to be around the area so that he can visit you or he was free to accompany you to do your boring stuff but in fact he took leave to do it. For us girls, we only see what’s on the surface and believe what we see and hear. If he say’s he’s free, then he’s free. Why want to think so far. On the other hand, for the guys this is their stragtegy to get the girl. There’s nothing wrong with that. But if the girl is not interested,

It has happen to me many times until i finally realize that i have to stop doing what i was doing. I wasn’t aware of it all. As hard as it may seem, when i finally confront my guy friend, i felt relieved. I wasn’t thinking i wanted free dinners, movies, gifts etc. I thought all along he was just my good friend. But when both parties have different perception things are visualize differently. You can’t treat a guy like you treat your girl friends. There’s no free lunch either girls.

Guys still can be your good friend…

I’m not saying that guys can’t be a girl’s best friend, it has it’s limits. I’m still good friends with a couple of guys. Our friendship is different. It’s nothing like what i’ve experience before. We chat, but not constantly. We only meet up once awhile and if your in a relationship both parties will bring their other half. I have a guy friend that will tag along with me and my bf when we go salsa or other events together. We even went to a party together when my bf was sick and we already bought the tickets. No doubt he knows my bf, but he’s closer to me. At times when he was feeling lonely his gf is not around he would talk to me about his stuff.  My bf did say that, all these actions are fine till a certain extend.Things like that are still normal. It is just not normal when a guy is so into the things that you are doing. As if he was trying to interrogate your life. Girl’s it’s time to wake up and smell the coffee. It’s not as innocent as it seems.

For the girls, if your guy friend is acting like me, if they like you just as a friend their actions are probably just the same as mine. They too won’t put much effort and time into what you are doing. They would be spending their time with the ones they are interested. Mostly likely to catch up with you once awhile. So girls if you are wondering if your guy friend is interested, you better think again.

My last note is, when you don’t feel the same it’s better to let them know early than later. There is no point dragging it just because you feel bad. I prefer to maintain the friendship than lose a friend. Suck it up and face the music, after all he needs to know. I may have broken a few hearts in the past, but i guess they respect my decision and that is why until this day… they are still my friends.

Till next time…