Ask Someone Out Without Getting Embarrassed

August 13th, 2008 Posted in Just stuff
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All of us must have encounter embarrassment at some point of our lives. What could be more embarrassing when it comes to someone you like? Looking back, you must wonder what was i thinking? Hope that no one knows or even notice.

It is not that difficult to save yourself. I think what most people are missing is that, they are not sensitive enough to understand simple signs that is given. When the opposite sex gives an excuse, take it from the face value. Don’t ask why or pre plan the dates before hand. Wait for them to offer back, after all they are the one that’s giving the excuse. If they are blowing you off, there is no point of initiating more. The person might get frustrated and just give it to you in the face. Worst of all, if there is people around. That is real embarrassment!

Be alert before initiating anything. Whether asking for a date, dinner, outing, movie, concerts, etc. Especially not in front of people. Ask yourself how does this person feel about you? If you are not 90% sure if it’s going to be a yes, opt for a group outing instead. I know this is not your plan, but at least both of you will get to know each other better. It’s casual, we’re friends doing something together. After awhile the person most likely to be more comfortable with you and your chances of asking her out is easier.

I have a rule that i believe in, 3 strikes and your’e OUT! Why ?

  • 1st time, in a polite way she’s bz with work or doing something with the family (just believe that it’s real).
  • 2nd time, still bz with whatever she’s doing. Can’t find the time etc etc. (she just hopes that you would stop asking after the excuses)
  • 3rd time, This is where you initiate that is why there is a 3rd time. Usually just let go on the 2nd time and let her ask you back. If that fails this is where 3rd time comes along. After the 3rd attempt and still with excuses doesn’t matter what excuse it is, time to move on. Remember what i was saying about being alert? This is it, 3 strikes and you’re OUT!

This is why being alert is important and able to understand the signs. Most guys like to give excuses or believe what the girl say’s is real. Simply because the guys want to believe there is still hope. Maybe it is, maybe it’s not, but the point is that she’s not out with you. As i mention in my earlier post that girls are always polite. They would say the most polite things to reject a guy, because it is not nice to always say no without an excuse. To some extend the girl would even go out once with the guy so that he can stop asking. The reality is that the girl just want the guy to stop. What the girl is actually thinking is that, ok we went out nothing interesting now you can stop asking. Sometimes the guys just don’t get it, they would continue and initiate. Depending how much the guy is initiating, the girl might just get frustrated and just say something mean one day. Leaves a awkward situation and a awkward feeling between the 2 of you. Not a pretty sight. It’s an embarrassment between you and her.

After understanding the signs/rules whatever you want to call it, know when to stop initiating before you get the shut down. What i’ve mention about is actually a fact, it has happen me and to few of my girl friends. Just another girl’s perspective :)

Till next time…

 

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