I have a lot of friends asking me for hmm…. what should i call it? relationship advice? Nop, they are not even in a relationship. Well.. ok just advice about girls. I think most people either give out mix signals or receiving the wrong signal. But whatever it is, i hope people read the signal right. If not you will end up in in a awkward situation or even worst with embarrassment. Bear in mind if it doesn’t work out, you can still be friends.

Actions that turn you down

  • If a girl says no or turn your offer down, “maybe next time”. Meaning she’s just being polite doesn’t really mean she’s waiting for the next time to come. It’s just another polite way of “turning you down”. If she’s really bz cause she can’t make it, she will call you and re-schedule another outing with you and plan which day that she is free. Your offer should not exceed 3 times. Best would be 2 and strike 3 you are out. You don’t have to keep on asking her. Major turn off.
    • Boyfriend says: From a guy’s perspective, if she doesn’t reply or counter-invite with a different day by the third time, throw her number into the toilet bowl and flush. Literally. It’s feels good knowing where her number is going.
  • When she do not answer your messages or calls, get the message she is not answering meaning she’s not interested. That is not difficult. Don’t give excuses for her as if she was bz. If she was bz, she will return the call or messages within 1 hr. Not in 5 hrs time or tomorrow. Which means you are no one important just someone she does not want to entertain.
    • Boyfriend says: Guys, you should be the one doing this, not her. You’re “busy” all the time, even if you’re twiddling your thumbs waiting for someone to ask you out. Remember that! ;)
  • When hanging out with a group of girls, and 1 of the girl says, we should hang out 1 day doesn’t mean she’s interested. She could have just like hanging out with you cause she is lifeless too. Or just get to know you. She can’t determine that she likes you yet. But she’s willing to find out more. Don’t get too excited, who knows she might just be using you for free breakfast, lunches, dinners, suppers, entrance fee to a club or movies.
    • Boyfriend says: There is a lot of ways/guides out there to find out if a girl is a user, so I’m not going to write too much about that. Just be cautioned about that. Keep both of your eyes and ears open for these girls and STAY AWAY.
  • The most important point of all is…… when there’s no respond, guess what? YUP! no respond, what else is there to think ? no excuse, nothing, HELLO didn’t you get the message yet? It’s time to move on…. don’t waste anytime anymore. That is why always keep a neutral mindset.
    • Boyfriend says: To make this easier to swallow than “there’s a lot of fishes out there”, just treat it like it’s a numbers game. If your odds of finding a girl that is interested in you is 1/100, you don’t press your luck (and go on full force) with one girl and hope that she’s your 1 in a 100, only to be dejected later when you find out that she’s not (after all the flowers and dinner invites and the movie outings and the “i’m not ready for a relationship yet but you find her holding hands with a guy next week” experience. Trust me, you don’t want to go through that. And the problem with pressing your luck is, you ruin your chances with that girl in the future. I mean, who knows what’s going to happen in the future, right? Play it cool and don’t bother so much whether she replies that SMS or not. :)

Girls can’t determain whether she likes you or not without actually knowing you beforehand. Major no no is don’t ever come on too strong too quickly. It just scares the girl away. Ya.. we’re gentle creature, we get scared easily. Actions that says i’m coming on strong are anything that appear too straight forward. I’ll give a few examples. Like, sending flowers, poetry, buying gifts (doesn’t matter if it’s expensive or not). It shows that you are giving the girl 100% or 110% of your attention that i like you. These are pretty straight forward actions that pretty much scares a girl without HER getting to know you first, in case she wasn’t interested in the first place. It may leave her with ok.. i’m not interested and give her a chance to just turn you down straight away. The key thing is, to keep it casual.

Boyfriend says: I dunno.. IMHO coming on strong works for certain types of girls.. so it depends.. Like what fallen angel says earlier, learn to read the signals right!

Till next time…

 

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